Today, I’m sharing my best tips on how to be more feminine and ladylike! Over the years, I’ve been asked time and time again “How do I become more feminine?” and I’m finally spilling my secrets. Read on for my tips on how to be more feminine and ladylike!
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How to Be More Feminine and Ladylike
Femininity has always come very naturally to me but as for how it started? That’s a mystery. My mom has always been a bit of a tomboy rather than girly girl. I remember putting together outfits from her closet when I was younger, wearing her heels around the house and putting on her makeup. She dressed me in the frilliest dresses to play outside in the mud haha (I would never get dirty, of course). And as I grew up, I always found myself enthralled by fashion… but not just any fashion. Feminine fashion. And it doesn’t stop there.
I’ve always had a more feminine demeanor. My behaviors and interests lean more traditionally feminine naturally. This is not something that I’ve done subconsciously but it is something that I’ve realized over time as people have brought more attention to it. With this, I’ve deducted what is considered to “be more feminine” and I’m excited to share my findings with you today!
With that being said, I believe that we all have a unique mix of feminine and masculine qualities. It’s important to own who you are and what you do best no matter where this falls on the scale. But I also understand that there is a desire from a lot of people to be more feminine and this honestly makes me so happy!
Before this whole popularity increase in being more feminine, I was looked down on and made fun for being my authentic self, which happens to be… you guessed it – feminine. People would often asked why I was always so dressed up or why I love pink so much or why I exclusively wore dresses. I discussed this in detail in my post about Why It’s Okay to be a Girly Girl. For some reason, these are negatives in the eyes of others. What’s even worse is that I was often judged for my appearance. People would often think I was unintelligent, untalented, air-headed, and weak. I specifically remember many situations where I was judged and punished solely on the basis of how I looked and presented myself. But that’s a story for a different day.
I’m really happy that society “seems” to be more accepting of femininity these days and to be honest, I’ve always felt a need to preserve it. I love sharing feminine outfits but I also love breaking stereotypes and inspiring others to do the same. You can be feminine and strong, fun, successful, talented, smart and masculine (crazy, right?). You can read more about that in my Myths and Misconceptions of Femininity post.
For now, let’s get into all of my tips on how to be more feminine and ladylike! 🙂
Dressing the Part
Let’s start with the basics! Looking feminine is all about dressing feminine. Of course, there are items that are more traditionally feminine but don’t feel like you have to dress in a way that is not authentic to you. By sharing my tips, I want to encourage you to embrace your femininity but I never want to take away the things that make you special as a person. It’s not that black and white. With that being said, these are my best tips for looking feminine!
Fashion
My blog has always been very heavily inspired by feminine fashion. It’s something that I am very knowledgable about and something that I’m passionate about. When it comes to dressing feminine, dresses and skirts are more traditionally feminine so this will give you a very obvious feminine look. Personally, I love dresses and skirts that nip in the waist and flare out but honestly, go with a silhouette that is flattering on you and that you are comfortable with.
You can also look feminine without wearing dresses or skirts. In this case, just look for feminine details like ruffles, bows, pin-tucking, embellishments, etc. Look for more feminine fabrics like silk, chiffon, tulle, lace, tweed, etc. And of course, look for lighter colors, pastels, and traditionally feminine patterns like florals, polka dots and more. This is not a definite list – I will plan to do a more in depth post surrounding this. For now, check out these posts for more info –
- 5 Easy Ways to Dress More Feminine
- How to Look Feminine Without Wearing Pink
- Feminine Romantic Style in 6 Easy Ways
- The Best Girly Clothing Stores for Feminine Style
- The 5 Feminine Style Personalities
Hygiene
Having proper hygiene is an important part of being more feminine. However, it doesn’t have to be excessive with an hour long skincare routine haha. Just a little effort in taking care of yourself goes a long way.
Personally I love to indulge in self-care and it’s a ritual that I set aside time for each day and week, no matter how busy I get. My bare minimum is a morning and night time skincare routine. If I have a bit more time, I love utilizing skincare tools like a steamer, facial roller or an anti-aging device like Nuface. At-home spa days are also a win-win in my book! I love indulging in bubble baths, face masks, hair masks and DIY mani/pedis.
These are things that make me feel my best. You don’t have to dedicate as much time – just do little things that make you feel good. Even something as mundane as showering can become a luxurious experience! To make my showers more exciting, I use a shower radio, shower bombs (like bath bombs for your shower) and indulge in nice hair and body products.
This might seem obvious but brushing your teeth, washing your face and brushing your hair are super simple but go a long way appearance-wise (and health-wise). For clothing, I highly recommend using a steamer for a flawless look. Things like shaving, waxing and plucking also give off a more feminine look but like everything else, do what makes you feel most comfortable. Don’t feel the need to incorporate something that feels inauthentic to you.
Hair and Makeup
Makeup
Doing your hair and makeup can really elevate your appearance and create a more feminine look overall. I’ve always loved wearing makeup – for some reason, it’s really relaxing to put on. I listen to music or podcasts and make it a thing 🙂 My makeup changes depending what I’m doing. For filming, photoshoots or special occasions, I go all out with a full makeup look. For day to day, I prefer a lighter look with some BB cream, lipgloss and mascara. And for lazy days, I put on tinted sunscreen and call it a day.
For feminine looking makeup, I think it’s important to not go to overboard. It’s better to err on the safe side with more classic, timeless and natural looks. That’s not to say that you can’t have fun with colors or techniques – just use them in moderation. Put emphasis on one feature – your eyes or lips are a safe bet. Wear colors that suit your complexion and eye color. I personally love wearing pink-toned eye shadows to bring out my green eyes. Play up the features you love the most. I was always made fun of for my lips when I was younger but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve grown to appreciate them and this is the feature I love to emphasize the most. You will hardly see me without some type of lip product on.
Hair
For hair, the most important thing is that it looks clean. Like makeup, feminine hair styling looks best when it’s more natural and simplistic. Embrace your natural hair for an effortless look or go the more polished route. I think that this will heavily depend on what you feel more comfortable with, what suits your face and features and what you realistically have time for.
Personally, I am very basic with my hair. 95% of the time, it’s down and curled. The other 5% of the time, I love creating simple ponytails, braids and half up styles. I love incorporating feminine hair accessories like barrettes, hair bows, ribbons, scarves and headbands. Hair accessories are not for everyone but they are fun to wear – give it a try if you’re feeling brave!
Nails
When it comes to nails, I recommend just keeping them trimmed and clean. For nail polish, lighter hues and nude tones work exceptionally well. I personally love wear lots of lighter pinks and mauves but I also found an AMAZING nail polish that gives off the most elegant look. I think that various lengths can be feminine – just as long as they aren’t too long or too short. But again, personal preference! You do you 😉
Fragrance
And now for the finishing touch – fragrance. I loveeee fragrance and honestly, I feel like it’s the easiest way to elevate your look and create a more feminine vibe overall. You can be wearing jeans and a lovely soft fragrance and still come off as feminine. That’s the power of perfume. In my opinion, scent doesn’t matter as this will be a personal choice for everyone. Feminine fragrances tend to incorporate florals, fruits or sweets but there are plenty that smell woodsy as well. Just the fact that you smell good will automatically create a more feminine aura.
Acting the Part
Although your clothing, makeup and hair choices can help you be more feminine, having a feminine demeanor is just as important. This is not to say that you need to entirely change who you are to become a different person but there are some behaviors that are more feminine than others. Incorporating these can help you become more feminine!
Proper Etiquette
Proper etiquette is the most important thing, in my opinion. I hate to say it, but having good manners is like a lost art these days. Really it’s just basic courtesies to yourself and others. Be respectful, kind, empathetic, and understanding – to yourself and others. Utilize phrases like “please,” “thank you” and “excuse me.” Simple things like a smile will also go a long way.
When it comes to etiquette, there’s a misconception that you have to be prim and proper at all times to be more feminine. Many people think there are certain rules that you have to follow and that in order to know these rules and live this lifestyle, you have to be rich. This could not be further from the truth. Being kind and considerate has nothing to do with your socioeconomic background. While it’s true that there are certain “rules” when it comes to table manners, setting placement, sitting positions, etc – these are not things that you have to utilize in order to be more feminine. However, I do find that most feminine women are genuinely interested in these behaviors and no matter how you grew up, they can easily be learned.
Good Posture
Having good posture can make you appear more feminine and elegant, no matter your height or size. Sitting, standing and walking in a ladylike manner will only increase your femininity (and your health). Stand up straight and be confident. I find that lack of confidence is one reason for lacking posture (trust me, I’ve been here). Just know that you are amazing and beautiful – you deserve to shine!
Ladylike Speech
Lastly, speaking like a lady will increase your femininity. Crude language, swearing, vulgar language and shouting is generally seen as more masculine. This does not mean that you have to completely change how your speak but rather be more aware of this. You can be assertive without being pushy and rude. You can be funny without being crude and provocative. Knowing how to balance your authentic self with appropriateness in social situations will be helpful. Complimenting others and yourself also goes a long way in being feminine.
Being the Part
Friendships
Socializing with more women can help you be more feminine. And by more women, I mean supportive women. For so long, I was surrounded by toxic women and it seems that I’m not the only one that has been in this predicament. Just know that you do not have to stay in female friendships (or any type of relationships) that are not good for you mentally and emotionally. When it comes to femininity, surround yourself with women that you admire and can grow from.
Ideally, you would want to help one other learn, grow and evolve into the women you want to be. Try to find friends that are supportive of who you are as a person right now. I realize this is easier said than done. In fact, I have a whole post dedicated to my experience with Bumble BFF. If you are looking for ways to make friends as an adult, check out this post.
Outfit Details
Pink Sister Jane Dress (similar) | Mary Frances Swan Purse c/o | White Franco Sarto Boots c/o | Pink Alexandre de Paris Hair Bow c/o (similar) | SKYE Clothing Pearl Necklace c/o (use ELIZABETH20 for 20% off) | Ring (similar) | L’Oreal Lipstick | Halo Hair Extension (use LIZZIEINLACE for $25 off!)
Confidence
A feminine woman is not necessarily meek. She is friendly, approachable and confident in herself. She knows who she is and she embraces her uniqueness. Owning your confidence and unique charm is the key to being more feminine and likely, the most important thing I will talk about today.
I get it. Being confident in yourself, especially if you were bullied or made of at any point in your life, is tough. You second guess yourself and your abilities, you harshly judge yourself for no reason at all and you never feel quite good enough for anyone or anything. If you are in this place, don’t despair. I have been here and I’m happy to say that it’s possible to get out of this mindset. Take time to heal yourself, let go of the past, and move on to a brighter future. Embrace your inner and outer confidence because truly, we only get one life to live. Be confident in your looks, body, skin, style, attitude and personality. Know that you are unique and wonderful and beautiful. Start shining like the bright light you are and don’t let anyone take that away from you!
More Femininity Tips
Check out the video below for more tips on how to be more feminine!
I hope you loved these tips on how to be more feminine and ladylike!
Do you have any to share? Comment below – I’d love to hear!
xo
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