Hi pretties! Happy September!
I hope you are having the best day!.I’m soooooo excited for the weekend 😀 Today, I’m styling this incredible Eliza J dress (in pink, of course!) and talking all about rejection and why, sometimes, it’s a good thing!
4 Reasons Why Rejection is Okay
Outfit Details
Dress: Eliza J c/o | Shoes: Stuart Weitzman via The Shoe Box | Handbag: Tory Burch | Jewelry
Another day, another pink dress…except this one has the most amazing sleeves I’ve ever seen! This dress is so perfect for work (or any occasion, really) and is incredibly well-made. Since I am pear-shaped and have a waist ratio must larger than my waist and top half, I tend to steer clear of more fitted dresses. I decided to try this one anyway and found that it was very true to size. It fit my top half very well, but was a bit tighter on the bottom. I wasn’t sure about it at first, but now I’m actually really liking the fit on me! I styled it with a pair of classic nude sandals, my favorite quilted handbag and some fun gold jewelry. 🙂
4 Reasons Why Rejection is Okay
Anyway, I wanted to talk about rejection today because I feel like it is SO important and something that we can all relate to. Rejection can be very hard to cope with as it can make us feel as if we aren’t good enough. This is especially true in the blogging world. I never realized just how much I would be rejected throughout this process…and it’s been a lot.
I have been rejected by brands, other bloggers and even people that are close to me that just don’t understand this whole blogging thing. A lot of emails that I send reaching out to brands go without a response. A lot of opportunities that I apply for are denied. A lot of the fashion shows I pitched for NYFW came back declined. A lot of bloggers that I reach out to to befriend don’t feel the same way. It stings a little each time I receive a “No,” and for some, that’s enough to give up.
When you put yourself out there to be in the public eye, it can be even harder to cope. It’s brings about feelings of anxiety, depression and hopelessness, but I’m here to tell you that rejection is completely normal and sometimes, can end up being a good thing.
1.) There could be something better waiting for you
I can’t tell you how many times in my life that this has applied. Sometimes, when you get rejected, it’s because there is something even more amazing waiting in the midst for you and you wouldn’t have this opportunity had you been accepted. This goes back to the “everything happens for a reason” notion. You physically cannot do everything and be everything and sometimes things will have to be sacrificed, even if you don’t know why. Just trust that all things work together for good and for your benefit.
Example: A few weeks ago, I shared my blogging story with you all. I went through a lot to get to this point (and even more that I didn’t disclose). I was rejected left and right when I trying to go into fashion design. I didn’t understand why everyone else could have their dream job and I couldn’t. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t use my artistic talent and training along with the passion that burned so deeply to move forward with this career. I didn’t understand why I had to go through so many bad things. I was a good student, a good person and seemingly perfect for a career in fashion, but it just wasn’t the right time. It was absolutely painful, but this entire process led me to start this fashion blog, which has become a passion that I never knew I had and has opened more doors than I even thought possible.
2.) It makes you stronger
Rejection hurts! Sometimes even physically. It take a strong individual to keep getting up after being knocked down repeatedly. But each time you get rejected, it gets easier and hurts a little bit less. You learn more about yourself and become empathetic to others. I can’t tell you how many iconic and famous people that have been rejected over and over and over, yet they are some of the most successful people today! (Anna Wintour, Oprah, Walt Disney, J.K. Rowling, Michael Jordan, Mark Cuban, the list goes on…)
3.) It’s not always personal
This is something that I have aways struggled with. When I was rejected for whatever reason, I would feel SO upset. Usually in the past, this was caused by friends and family but that’s a story for another day. 🙂 In business, it is definitely not personal and I have learned to cope with this. Hearing “No” does not mean “No” forever. It just means not right now. Perhaps, you have more growing to do or it’s not the right time and that is completely okay! Your time will come and it will be worth the wait 🙂
4.) It teaches you a lesson
Sometimes, rejection teaches us a lesson and we have to re-evalutate things. There are so many situations in life that are difficult: maybe you were fired from your job, your boyfriend broke up with you, your friends stopped hanging out with you, an offer on a house fell through, etc. There are reasons for these things happening. Perhaps, you absolutely hated or weren’t good at that job you got fired from…the guy you were dating just wasn’t a good fit for you…your old group of friends didn’t have your back….the house fell through because something better was in store elsewhere. As hard as these situations are, rejection is vital in moving forward and makes room for blessings in the future.
I hope you have an amazing holiday weekend!
xo
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That’s a beautiful dress and you always look so good in pink! 🙂
Rejection is hard to deal with but it’s great you’ve listed some ways to see the positive side!
Thank you for the link up!
Hope you have a wonderful weekend ahead of you 🙂
Away From The Blue Blog
Love this dress, those sleeves, swoon! I agree, rejection, while it stings for a second, makes us try harder, and makes us stronger.
Great post, Liz! The only correction I would make is number one’s heading – I wouldn’t say “could be,” I would say “will be,” because, trust me, there will be something better waiting for you, as long as you keep your heart open and embrace every day.
Loving your beautiful pink dress! Those sleeves are gorgeous!
Have a great weekend!
Mary
http://marymurnane.com
#1 and #4 are the truth! And by the way, that pink dress is fabulous on you.
this is such a great post! I totally agree, sometimes that path is just not meant for you and thats ok! love the sleeves on your pink dress too 🙂
I totally agree with you!
Your dress isn’t beautiful. The sleeves are absolutely gorgeous!
Thanks so much!
Interesting article babe, thanks for sharing!
That pink dress looks amazing on you!
X Merel
http://www.andathousandwords.com
Love this dress Liz! The sleeves are so chic. Thanks for reminding us the rejection just makes us stronger. 🙂
http://www.kathrineeldridge.com
These are great tips and I totally agree! Also, loving this look too!
Thanks so much Krystin!
Another great post, Liz! And another beautiful dress! The sleeves are magnificent, for sure. And like you said, rejection is so important for personal growth. Thanks for sharing your story.
Shelbee
http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com
Those are all very positive viewpoints about rejection that we need to keep in mind. Another that I’d like to add is the rejection is not a sign of failure. it’s a sign of personal growth and progress that you’re taking steps to move forward. Thanks for sharing your insights and for providing bloggers with a means to connect through your link up.
Rena
http://www.finewhateverblog.com
Yes! Love this! I completely agree and think it’s important that we remember that we have not failed ourselves because we’ve been rejected. You just have to try again and again.
You are definitely right about rejection. A lot of times I don’t try because I’m afraid of rejection. But sometimes you just need to put yourself out there! I’m loving the sleeves of this dress too!
~Jessica
Jeans and a Teacup
It does hurt to try when you get rejected over and over, but there’s a silver lining. Just keep trying and good things will come!
You really have a great head on your shoulders Liz. Because it’s true rejection isn’t fun, but in a way it happens to all of us in all aspects of life. I always have to remember that I’ve rejected people for various reasons too…not out of hate or meanness, but you know when a guy you’re dating won’t work for you, or someone applies for a job that it won’t be a good fit.
And don’t you look absolutely perfect?? Love the sleeves on this dress, Liz!!
Have a fabulous weekend!!
XOXO
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
Lovely outfit, but your message was even better! It’s refreshing for a fellow blogger like yourself to put some of my same sentiments into a post.
Thanks so much Danasia! I appreciate it!
I love this dress! So gorgeous on you! This is a great post!
Thanks so much Nataly!
I love the sleeves on this dress and you look amazing!! Yes Blogging can be the worst for making you feel rejected. I have let it get to me a lot lately…trying to be a bigger person and just let it go! Just know you are a wonderful inspiration and definitely one of my fav’s to follow! xo Valerie
Thanks so much Valerie! You really made my day 🙂 You are doing amazing things and don’t let the rejection get to you. Just trying again and again and good things will come of it. Your hard work WILL pay off
Totally get you on that. I may not be on your list of bloggers but I’d love to collaborate with you if you ever want to 🙂. I find rejection for me often comes from companies that offer paid blogging opps that come back with nothing for me and I think to myself “are they even choosing anyone or is it always me they choose to decline??” Yesterday I got my first from one of these companies to my biggest surprise. But that’s not to say I don’t get opps elsewhere. I do and I am very thankful for them and I can finally say I am happy with my progress. My next step is to conquer my own product, bigger brands and affiliate marketing. I’m sure more and more rejection is ok the way but it’s part of any business you enter Into.
The-wardrobe-stylist.com
Oh, Rania! Of course, we will need to plan something. I get rejection ALOT from brands too. It doesn’t feel very good, but it will be okay. Other opportunities come. Congrats!!
How timely this is. I was just talking with some friends about the word “no” yesterday and how sometimes it just means “not right now”. Rejection is hard and it’s not always necessarily personal. Thanks for the reminders.
I agree 100%!!
Looking amazing girl! This is such a great post. Rejection is hard but it makes us stronger on the only side.
-xo, Azanique | http://www.lotsofsass.com
I love the way you put this! Sometimes we really do need to just put ourselves out there, especially to get ahead in life/business/etc!
Thanks so much Megan! I agree!
This is a great post and I agree with everything you say! You look fabulous and I love your dress! I think it suits your shape very well! Pink is definitely your color 🙂 Happy Holidays
Edwige | http://www.hypnozglam.com
Thanks so much Edwige!!
I struggle with the “it’s not personal” part! Great post babe and I love those sleeves!
I do too! that’s the hardest!
Yes this is so true! I’ve felt rejection a lot lately with sponsored opps and pitching to brands so it’s been hard to cope.
I know exactly what you mean. keep pushing through, girl!
I totally agree with you. I can’t help but to take it personally when I get rejected but you are so right. I have applied for so many campaigns and have been rejected and ever so often I am the chosen one. I think it is all a numbers game.
xo
http://www.laurajaneatelier.com
It’s hard not to take it personal. I know exactly how you feel because I get rejected over and over and over too. We just have to keep trying <3
Love this shade of pink and of course the sleeves are gorgeous!
Amy Ann
Straight A Style
Thanks so much Amy Ann!
Love those sleeves and this post was amazing!
Interesting topic Lizzie 😉 I agree with most of your points but I still have sometime the feeling that it can be personal … even in business (ok I’m not, totally not in the same kind of business) so when it hurts … I take time to think, to get stronger to get a yes next time 😉 (I think I already mentioned in my job that lessons learned is key 🙂
Have a great week-end and … of course your outfit with this pink dress is totally lovely 😉
https://4highheelsfans.wordpress.com/2017/09/01/tuscany-collodi/
What an inspiring post! I completely agree that rejection is just a pause before something wonderful happens!
LOOOOOVE those sleeves. What a pretty dress!
I’ve been rejected over and over and over, but I can’t help but feel like something greater is in store for me. It’s hard not to take it personal but from each rejection I learn a valuable lesson.
Ah yes, it’s so important to remember that rejection can have positive effects too! Gorgeous dress!
Lindsey
http://www.seamlesssea.com
This dress is so pretty on you! It’s the perfect shade of pink. =)
http://www.avecamber.blogspot.com
http://www.bloglovin.com/avecamber
I hope you have a great long weekend!
Amber
Thanks so much Amber!
awesome topic! I think rejection definitely teaches a valuable lesson. And a lot of it isn’t personal even though sometimes it sure does feel that way. Love your dress and that necklace is gorgeous!
I know exactly what you mean. It does feel very personal
LOVE the huge sleeves! This dress is so flattering on you!
Lauren
http://www.basicbabelauren.com
Thanks so much Lauren!
I love your dress! Those sleeves are so fabulous! Rejection and failure are part of life and are an essential part of the path to success. Rejection does become easier to deal with as you get older – I remember being devastated at not getting jobs and failing my my driving test (3 times!). I can look back now and just see them as just bumps in the road, and if I’d got some of those jobs I probably wouldn’t be doing what I do now.
Emma xxx
http://www.style-splash.com
Love this dress on you!
xx- Nina
http://www.ninalnguyen.com/2017/08/rock-those-basic-pieces.html
This dress is so gorgeous!! I love the pink and the sleeves are FABULOUS. Also, this post could not have come at a better time! Thank you so much for touching on this subject!!
Miles of smiles,
Grace
gracefulrags.com
You are so welcome!! I’m so glad to help 🙂
Rejection sucks but it only makes us stronger!
what an inspiring post!!
Such an important message! Love this!
-Kat
http://www.katwalksf.com/
i love your dress and your pretty bag! and I agree, rejection has gotten me where I am today – and even though it stunk while it was happening, I wouldn’t change it now!
xo
Victoria
http://www.agallonofglitter.com
Totally agree with what you shared here, especially #1 and 4! Also the sleeves on this dress are amazing!!
#3 is always the hardest for me too. I usually take things super personally and find it’s hard not to. We are all in this together
This is such a great post. Rejection has made me who I am! Beautiful dress too babe!
Pink is definitely your color!! I think that its all how we handle the rejection we are faced with, what we can take away from the situation, how we can learn from it and move on! I love this post!
My first comment needs to be about your stunning dress. I’m absolutely in love with the light pink color and those dynamite sleeves! So darling! Secondly, I want to thank you for sharing this message! It’s so important for people to realize that rejection can actually be a helpful thing in the long run. Your blog story was so inspiring to me!
These are all so true! I loved reading this post!
I love how optimistic this post is!
Rejection opens up more doors that we didnt know were there in the first place. Such a cute dress by the way, you look so gorgeous dear! Love your necklace!
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
OMG those bell sleeves are everything! Love that shade of pink on you too!
xo Jessica
http://www.whatsfordinneresq.com
Those sleeves are FABULOUS! And yes to all your points, too! Rejection is hard to take, but it can end up being a good thing in the end.
Look at you! Obsessed with this dress, so pretty.
Isn’t That Charming.
I love the part about something better may be out there. So true! Loving your dress.
LOVE this post! I struggle with taking rejection personally, and I have to remind myself that this person (or whoever) doesn’t really know me. Definitely makes you stronger!
-Tristan
YES! This is all so true. I really no longer get upset about rejection of any kind. I have learned that it is always for the best.
love this post… so true in so many ways!!!! and that pink ruffled beauty is just gorg on you
Beautiful dress! That soft pink color looks amazing on you!
Katherine | http://www.oneswainkycouple.com
What a gorgeous dress! I so agree with this post – rejection is hard to swallow, but definitely is ok!
So loving this dress on you! Eliza J is our very fave!
Thanks so much Jana!
Thanks so much Ashley!
Thanks so much Jacqui!
It certainly does and the way that bloggers treat each other sometimes does not constitute a reason for that behavior. I firmly believe that we are all in this together and need to be supportive of one another. Some people don’t agree and want to act a certain way and that’s fine. I won’t surround myself with people that constantly bring me down and think they are better than me.
Thanks so much Julia!